Sorry about hitting enter too soon, holding fussy baby.
Well, to update. Not much has changed in the relationship between DH and MIL since this crap went down. After we didn't come to Thanksgiving, and she didn't get to see DD for her birthday, she just shows up at our house Thanksgiving evening with a present for DD, and says "Can I see DD?". DH had answered the door and this is what she said. No hello, or anything. He of course says no.. She says "well when can I??". Dh replies that she doesn't get to just show up here and act like nothing is wrong with their relationship and get to see our kids. She says: "well you haven't tried to contact me." He says to her "why would I?". She asks when they can talk, and he told her he'd let her know.
I forbid him from going over to her house. I could see her or internet guy pulling the same shit if she didn't like what was said.
Well DH has her over here for a CTJ talk. MAJOR FAIL. He was all fired up ready to confront her and by his own admission faltered when face to face. To sum it up on her end, she feels that there was just ugly things said and NEVER addressed or answered DH when he asked her why the fuck this guy felt he had any business involving himself or by making up a story and calling the cops. She avoided that completely according to DH. I was not there for any of this. We did not want to have the kids around herso I left with kids.
Somehow in the midst of this shit show, she brings up her usual woe is me crap, how we don't involve her enough, how I never have liked her, and THEN actually blamed ME and my parents of all people for this situation. WTF?
LIke I said, a complete and utter shit show. She actually said she doesn't feel anything wrong with what happened that night except that they both said some ugly things. She asked him what kind of relationship he wanted to have with her and he couldn't tell her. He's supposed to let her know.
DH has not let her know.
Since then the Saturday after Thanksgiving, she has sent quite a few text messages. The first one was about two weeks after and was asking if he wanted some shitty desk that she is getting rid of. So a complete rug sweep attempt in my opinion.
Then nothing until texts Midnight Christmas Eve, wishing DH a "Merry Christmas, I love you son!"
God Bless You, Son!
I love you, DH! God Bless You!
I love you, DH. God Bless You.
God bless you. I will always love you no matter what!
I love you, DH. God Bless You! God bless
I love you. God Bless you! I hope you figure it out.
Then, NYE: I am at (local religious place that does Christmas lights) Remember that night?
Can we talk today? Tell me, please what is going on.
I love you. God Bless you!
Happy New Year
I love you. God bless you. Call me.
Are you home?
I love you. God Bless you. Think about it.
Dad would have been 64 today.
Last text message was on Jan 11th. Pretty much a text a day every day since Christmas. All BH.
Today I get home from store. There is a yellow envelope in mailbox addressed to DH, no postage. I open it, inside is mail for DH, mail for myself, DH's high school ring, and DUCLOLAX STOOL SOFTENER SUPPOSITORIES. What in the fuck????
I call to let DH know this. He's baffled. Then when we are off the phone and he get's phone call from a great uncle asking him to swing by. He does, knowing full well what this is about. But, he respects uncle and uncle is not BSC. Once there, uncle indeed asks what is going on. DH lets him know, and uncle tells him that he hopes he'll keep an open mind and talk with her. Also, that teachers at her school have called his wife and said shes being weird and saying things that make them think she could hurt herself. Though he wasn't clear on what was actually said.
DH came back and said outright that he's not ready to end the relationship, but thinks if he doesn't he'd be hurting ours, and the kids and I mean more than a relationship with her.
Does he continue to BH, or lay it out for her (again)?
ETA.. We saw his cousin and UIL and AIL the day after Christmas so they could see kids. Suprising no FMs. EXCEPT CIL gave us a bag with three cards in it. One to DH and I, and one each to the kids. The kids had $100 each in them, DH's and mine was a card full of God's blessings and family is forever.