My sister is 30. We live a few blocks from each other. She was in the war and now is 100 percent disabled and on disability. She is a drama starter her and my Mother who is states away. But she's also very close to me and lived with us for about 9 months prior to getting their own lace. She is married without children. She has a drinking problem and way too much time on her hands as she doesn't work, go to school or have kids. Her husband just started a evening job and works until ten.
I work 40+ hours as a visiting RN and I drive all day. I have three children and a husband. Just to give you guys an idea of our lifestyle.
OK so about two weeks ago I get SIX calls after I was already in bed at about 11-12 midnight. So I wake u out of my sleep and it is my sister. She went to bingo, got drunk and wanted a ride home. I admit I did not respond well to be woken up. BUT I offered to call a cab, that wasn't good enough. The cab ride is five bucks to home. So I drag myself out of bed, mind you it was -45 this night. I show u at the bar she wouldn't go with me. There was a cab outside I offered to pay and she refused after acting crazy yelling a screaming crying outside the bar because she thought I should be happy to help her. I had to leave, it was after midnight and I have to drive all day. It is not safe to drive drowsy. The next day I asked her to talk about it in therapy, I offered to come. She refused. She still thinks I am the one in the wrong. Even though I was there happy or not it wasn't good enough. But I guess she feels it is reasonable to drag someone out of bed for no reason then refuse the help. She admitted she could have taken a cab but wanted to "See if I would be there for her."
It was all a game. The stress is tremendous because my drama mother is on her side calling me yelling at me that I could have caused her death because I didn't force her to come with me. I put mom on TO because SHE is the one that told my sister that she should call me instead of a cab at midnight. Like no one cares that I have to work driving all day. I have not talked to Mom since
Anyways sister calls a couple days later and comence rug sweeping. When I tried to talk to her she refused stating that I was wrong and she didn't want to work herself talking about it. I let it go, it was easier. I probably shouldn't have.
Fast forward to tonight at 1035 I'm in bed with my husband and I get a text asking if I could take her to the VA tomorrow for a cortisone injection in the afternoon. I said sure I will try and find a sitter. I text my MIL and BIL, did not hear back yet. They were probably a sleep. My 18month old is sick. Fever today 102.7. She wanted me to pack up the kids and take them all to the ER if I couldn't find anyone. (hubby works) I told her no the baby is sick and I am not taking my kids to the ER. If worst case scenario I couldn't get someone that I would drop her off and pick her up. (a 30+ min drive each way with 2 kids and a sick baby but I was willing) she immediately demanded that I give her an answer. I told her I could tell her in the morning after I hear back from MIL. She then demanded I again get out of bed to take her tonight since hubby is home. And since I refused she is now saying that I am not there for her EVER because of these two incidents. And she will call someone who cares.
Princess much? I am at my wits end. I am trying to hold back my anger due to her mental illness. But how in the world can a person be so damn demanding of another's time. I said YES to what she originally wanted and that still wasn't good enough.
She's playing a "prove you love me" game. My plate is over full the drama is keeping me up tonight. How do I respond? She is helpful with our kids. She will help get them to the bus on occasion as she lives close enough for them to take the bus from her house. I want to be there for her but this demanding rude attitude is too much for me. I know she will call in the morning expecting me to still take her. Should I? I feel like I want to help BUT this is becoming a pattern. It doesn't feel good to be talked to like a piece of shit. Being accused of not being a good sister. Yet I feel that I gave her what she wanted but she wont be happy unless it is exactly when and what she wants. Last time we rug swept and now not even two weeks later its getting worse.
Please HELP!