I have never met the ILs before. We met, married and live out of state and it just never happened. Well I just had LO two months ago so we flew out to see them and it was bad.
It was mainly just MIL being PA and DH being a DUH. So as soon as we get there, we walk in and I have LO in my arms. I have never met MIL in my life. She doesn't even introduce herself to me, she just immediately swoons over LO and takes her out of my arms..."my graaaaandbaby oh soooo peciooouus!" So I'm just standing there kind of overwhelmed and surprised that this is how that went down. Then after like literally a whole minute, DH is like "umm mom this is Dani." She looks up and says hi.
Sooo we are sitting down in the living room, I met FIL and his dad is there. Everyone is talking and MIL still has LO but I don't say anything because I felt like I needed to let her hold her because we were only visiting and she never met her. After sometime LO starts fussing and I say she needs fed (I EBF). Mil looks at me and says "ok I can feed her, give me a bottle please." I tell her I haven't pumped anything. So she gives me this look and says "well go pump then! I want to feed my grand baby, girl!" DUH is like "yeah go pump, let mom feed her!" So I feel kind of Ganged up on and I'm really shy and I've never met these people but I say id rather feed her myself. I pretty much insist that that is how it's going down and mil ROLLS HER EYES at me and says "well if that is really what you insist on doing." Pouts and hands me LO. I feed LO and come back out, she just grabs her right back from me.
So some time later we get ready to eat and like everything MIL is setting out on the table she is informing me, announcing in front of everyone "now Dani it's non fat, this is low calorie" etc. Never did I say I was on a diet or trying to lose weight. Later at dinner we got on the subject of who LO was looking like and MIL blurted out "well I hope she takes after DH's metabolism!!" DH is thinner than me, I'm 5'5 and 160, I just had a f*cking baby. Yeah I'm not a supermodel. Then she says "so dani what are you doing to try to lose weight? You know I can give you some tips to help you she's some of those excess pounds, just let me know." She says this at dinner, in front of everyone, I was so embarrassed. Later I was asked by FILs dad what I do for a living. I say I'm a LPN, fils dad doesn't know what that is. Before I can even answer, MIL pipes up. "Low paid nurse, or is it little pretend nurse? Ahaha I'm just kidding, Dani!" Then she asks. "So when are you going back for your RN though? There are so many more opportunities for you as an RN I'm sure you know." I told her I like being a LPN just fine and I didn't see the problem in being that, they contribute a lot to the medical field as well. She tells me she didn't mean to offend.
The next day when we came back to visit (stayed at a hotel thank god) FIL wanted DH to help him fix something on this car he's been trying to restore. So they go down to the garage and as soon as they do MIL grabs LO and says. "Dani there's a nice movie theater down town, why don't you take the rental car and cat h a flick so I can spend quality time with LO?" I'm surprised, she doesn't even care about getting to know me. She wanted me out of the house so she could hog LO. I told her I wasn't pumping milk for we to feed LO and I would be gone too long. She got really huffy and argued with me a bit, then we just awkwardly say in the living room for an hour or so. DH spent some more time with them then we left.
I told DH I didn't like her, but he thinks I am being melodramatic and overreacting. She really hurt my feelings. I told him I will never go back there and LO isn't going without her mom. He's really pissed right now.
It was mainly just MIL being PA and DH being a DUH. So as soon as we get there, we walk in and I have LO in my arms. I have never met MIL in my life. She doesn't even introduce herself to me, she just immediately swoons over LO and takes her out of my arms..."my graaaaandbaby oh soooo peciooouus!" So I'm just standing there kind of overwhelmed and surprised that this is how that went down. Then after like literally a whole minute, DH is like "umm mom this is Dani." She looks up and says hi.
Sooo we are sitting down in the living room, I met FIL and his dad is there. Everyone is talking and MIL still has LO but I don't say anything because I felt like I needed to let her hold her because we were only visiting and she never met her. After sometime LO starts fussing and I say she needs fed (I EBF). Mil looks at me and says "ok I can feed her, give me a bottle please." I tell her I haven't pumped anything. So she gives me this look and says "well go pump then! I want to feed my grand baby, girl!" DUH is like "yeah go pump, let mom feed her!" So I feel kind of Ganged up on and I'm really shy and I've never met these people but I say id rather feed her myself. I pretty much insist that that is how it's going down and mil ROLLS HER EYES at me and says "well if that is really what you insist on doing." Pouts and hands me LO. I feed LO and come back out, she just grabs her right back from me.
So some time later we get ready to eat and like everything MIL is setting out on the table she is informing me, announcing in front of everyone "now Dani it's non fat, this is low calorie" etc. Never did I say I was on a diet or trying to lose weight. Later at dinner we got on the subject of who LO was looking like and MIL blurted out "well I hope she takes after DH's metabolism!!" DH is thinner than me, I'm 5'5 and 160, I just had a f*cking baby. Yeah I'm not a supermodel. Then she says "so dani what are you doing to try to lose weight? You know I can give you some tips to help you she's some of those excess pounds, just let me know." She says this at dinner, in front of everyone, I was so embarrassed. Later I was asked by FILs dad what I do for a living. I say I'm a LPN, fils dad doesn't know what that is. Before I can even answer, MIL pipes up. "Low paid nurse, or is it little pretend nurse? Ahaha I'm just kidding, Dani!" Then she asks. "So when are you going back for your RN though? There are so many more opportunities for you as an RN I'm sure you know." I told her I like being a LPN just fine and I didn't see the problem in being that, they contribute a lot to the medical field as well. She tells me she didn't mean to offend.
The next day when we came back to visit (stayed at a hotel thank god) FIL wanted DH to help him fix something on this car he's been trying to restore. So they go down to the garage and as soon as they do MIL grabs LO and says. "Dani there's a nice movie theater down town, why don't you take the rental car and cat h a flick so I can spend quality time with LO?" I'm surprised, she doesn't even care about getting to know me. She wanted me out of the house so she could hog LO. I told her I wasn't pumping milk for we to feed LO and I would be gone too long. She got really huffy and argued with me a bit, then we just awkwardly say in the living room for an hour or so. DH spent some more time with them then we left.
I told DH I didn't like her, but he thinks I am being melodramatic and overreacting. She really hurt my feelings. I told him I will never go back there and LO isn't going without her mom. He's really pissed right now.