MIL called DH, asked to see baby this weekend when she comes to her apartment (that she rented solely so she could see LO whenever she wanted) IL's live 4 hours away. When LO was first born, almost a year now, she did all the "classic" boundary stomping bs and I was a pushover and never understood or realized what was happening. Made everything about her. Threw me a huge shower in her home town with 50 of her friends/family who i had NEVER even met. Showed up at hospital dressed to the NINES with her sister (I didn't even have my own mother there) I was pushed to pump so she could wake up in night and feed LO to "help" me. But of course I was up the whole time anyway. She planned to babysit for LO when I went back to work last July (which i had an excrutiatingly difficutl time with) My first day back I was obviously a complete mess and she ignored me when I got home becuase she was offended and took my anxiety about leaving LO as a reflection on her "parenting abilities". She ignored me blatently on several occassions in my own home. We had a complete blow up and things have been awful since. She made it all about her and lacked any compassion for the PPD and anxiety about leaving LO. Since then I've quit my job and the last time we saw her was when we went to stay a few days with them over Christmas. Well I told DH that I did not want to see her until LO's bday in March because i needed space-she was coming every weekend-every other. Anyway, she asked DH if she could come this weekend to see the baby. I hate her. Do I have to let her come? What if I wasn't there? What if I had something I had to do this weekend (legitimately) what if I didn't want DH and LO to see her without me? Would that be shitty of me?
Please help!