Have posted before but can't link BG on my phone so...
I have many issues with my p/a MIL and a few with my FIL. I blocked MIL from my phone and haven't seen or talked to ILs since their last visit in June. DH finally talked to them, so time will tell if things improve.
They live over 4 hours away so I knew they would expect us to have two birthday parties; one where we live and one at their house. DH and I agreed to one party here. I don't want to set the precedent that LO will have two parties every year and I don't want him to expect two parties/be spoiled. I agreed to a get together when we visit for Thanksgiving (LO's birthday is earlier in November) for DHs family that can't make it down for the party. Any balloons or cake and we're leaving.
DH tells me tonight his parents are upset because LO "only has one fiiiiiiiiirst biiiirthdaaay and all his family will be sooooo saaaad if they can't make it to the party. " I told him they are all invited, if they can't make it that's not my problem. They can be upset too, I'm not responsible for their feelings. He says maybe we should have another party just this once. I said NO. LO is our son so we plan his birthday not his grandparents!
My question is what do I do now? I'm not having a second party, especially one that MIL plans (she is my BEC). So how do I respond to pressure? How can I better explain to DH why it's not happening?
I have many issues with my p/a MIL and a few with my FIL. I blocked MIL from my phone and haven't seen or talked to ILs since their last visit in June. DH finally talked to them, so time will tell if things improve.
They live over 4 hours away so I knew they would expect us to have two birthday parties; one where we live and one at their house. DH and I agreed to one party here. I don't want to set the precedent that LO will have two parties every year and I don't want him to expect two parties/be spoiled. I agreed to a get together when we visit for Thanksgiving (LO's birthday is earlier in November) for DHs family that can't make it down for the party. Any balloons or cake and we're leaving.
DH tells me tonight his parents are upset because LO "only has one fiiiiiiiiirst biiiirthdaaay and all his family will be sooooo saaaad if they can't make it to the party. " I told him they are all invited, if they can't make it that's not my problem. They can be upset too, I'm not responsible for their feelings. He says maybe we should have another party just this once. I said NO. LO is our son so we plan his birthday not his grandparents!
My question is what do I do now? I'm not having a second party, especially one that MIL plans (she is my BEC). So how do I respond to pressure? How can I better explain to DH why it's not happening?