I am dealing with an issue with my foo that i have been dealing with for years. Need to figure out if i am the crazy one here. I have a younger sister who has always been the favored one. As long as I can remember. I am the older one who has always been the responsible one. I did great in school, have always had a job, and been financially responsible. She is the one who never could clean up after herself (parents would do it for her), got average grades, and still to this day (we are both in our 30s) has not had a full-time or professional job. I love her and have accepted who she is. My problem is that my parents have always favored her and enabled her. For example, they have bought her two houses, gave her husband a job working for my dad part-time but pay him a full-time salary, and given her thousands of dollars over the years. My sister is pretty, smart and has a bachelors degree. Her husband is also smart, has a degree, and both are nice likable people. My sis is lazy though. She doesnt apply herself and really has never needed to. My parents took care of everything for her, and still do along with my bil. i have been in several fights with my parents over the years because of the handouts they have given her-It is frustrating to not get anything myself. We work hard and barely make ends meet. We could use extra help if it is being given out. The only way we have gotten any is when i have complained and they relent and give us money too. I feel like an asshole doing this, since we can take care of ourselves, but its not like we couldnt use it. I am currently not speaking to them because i found out my bil is getting paid a ft salary yet working about 20 hrs a week. Meanwhile, a year ago, when he got hired-my husband didnt even get asked. My parents then proceeded to tell my bil that i was mad and crazy blah blah blah. He then was mad at me. I think i smoothed that over. My parents reaction anytime i get upset of an obviously extreme unfair sitiuation is that i am crazy and i need to not worry about what my sister has. Its not like this happens everyday. This is the third blowup i have had in the last 10-15 years. Am i wrong for being upset? How would you feel-or what would you do?
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