Okay so there is background on this but it can't be linked. The thread was closed. Long story short MIL is BSC and is mentally ill. She already has a major case of baby rabies and I'm only 8 weeks. Major fail telling her I know. She's butt hurt that I have essentially cut her off. DH isn't ready for a CO yet but I've been sick of her passive aggressive crap for a long time.
So the reason I'm posting again is because she called DH crying after she found out that we had told some friends we were expecting. She had texted me after midnight. I'll provide the text and my subsequent response when I saw the text in the morning. All spelling errors are hers.
Since you told close friends that you are expecting can I tell it now? We got told this at wrestling tonight. So please let me know we can tell it now? I love you both and can't wait for LO to get here.
I responded with "No. It's our news to tell not yours."
She responded back "Ok I wont. I love you both still."
The two hours later she calls my DH crying asking why I'm treating her like this etc. DH shuts her down and hangs up on her. Then I lost my temper :/ she was guilt tripping him and it pisses me off so bad. I know I shouldn't have responded to her craziness but I just couldn't not defend myself and DH.
So here's what I sent her.
"You acting like this isn't helping your case. Calm down and act normal. If you want to be a part of mine and DH's Childs life then calm down. I simply wanted you to wait one more month to tell people. And that's my right as the mother. You had your chance to do all these things. You had your children. Now it's my turn and DH's turn. You aren't entitled to be a part of our child's life. Stop calling all the time and give us space as a family. Do not call him crying over me. I'm tired of you guilt tripping him. A good mother doesn't do that. So stop."
She responded "Ok whatever you say. But I still love you all. I would just like to see my only child I have left. So could you please let me see him. I eant (want is what she meant) you giys to be very happy. So im so excited for you guys. So ill wait another month. So you please tell me when I can tell it please. I love you allm"
I responded back "I don't control him. If he wants to see you that's his choice not mine." And she just said ok.
I don't know what what else to do besides cut her off. She's crazy and unstable and my DH just recently admitted that when he was a child she emotionally and physically abused him. How can I get him to see that she's toxic? Or do I just CO her from me and LO and let that be it?
So the reason I'm posting again is because she called DH crying after she found out that we had told some friends we were expecting. She had texted me after midnight. I'll provide the text and my subsequent response when I saw the text in the morning. All spelling errors are hers.
Since you told close friends that you are expecting can I tell it now? We got told this at wrestling tonight. So please let me know we can tell it now? I love you both and can't wait for LO to get here.
I responded with "No. It's our news to tell not yours."
She responded back "Ok I wont. I love you both still."
The two hours later she calls my DH crying asking why I'm treating her like this etc. DH shuts her down and hangs up on her. Then I lost my temper :/ she was guilt tripping him and it pisses me off so bad. I know I shouldn't have responded to her craziness but I just couldn't not defend myself and DH.
So here's what I sent her.
"You acting like this isn't helping your case. Calm down and act normal. If you want to be a part of mine and DH's Childs life then calm down. I simply wanted you to wait one more month to tell people. And that's my right as the mother. You had your chance to do all these things. You had your children. Now it's my turn and DH's turn. You aren't entitled to be a part of our child's life. Stop calling all the time and give us space as a family. Do not call him crying over me. I'm tired of you guilt tripping him. A good mother doesn't do that. So stop."
She responded "Ok whatever you say. But I still love you all. I would just like to see my only child I have left. So could you please let me see him. I eant (want is what she meant) you giys to be very happy. So im so excited for you guys. So ill wait another month. So you please tell me when I can tell it please. I love you allm"
I responded back "I don't control him. If he wants to see you that's his choice not mine." And she just said ok.
I don't know what what else to do besides cut her off. She's crazy and unstable and my DH just recently admitted that when he was a child she emotionally and physically abused him. How can I get him to see that she's toxic? Or do I just CO her from me and LO and let that be it?