Evening all,
Wonder if anyone can offer some advise or words of wisdom?
My husband has a cousin who around 10 years ago divorced from his wife, they have a son who is now 13. They live in the same town only ten minutes apart and for the most part seem to be very civil with each other. Cousins ex wife especially was determined to keep things friendly between them mostly for their child but also as she was an established member of the family and didn't want to lose contact. Ex wife has custody of their son with cousin having regular access.
DH and I have become good friends with exCW and have spent many weekends together both at her house and ours, we thought all was well with CIL as they have been on holiday with their son together many times and have a lot of regular contact.
We were surprised this evening to receive a text from exCW that she's now scared of her CIL due to his increasingly threatening behaviour, abusive texts, snide remarks, convinced she is seeing someone else and being upset about it, being rude to his son to the point he swore back at him.....we're devestated for her and advised her to seek therapy and and a family lawyer ASAP
Other than offering emotional support I wonder if there is more we can do? DH has said we should not say anything to the rest of th family and keep out of it, but part of me wants to tell CIL off for being an arse, I'm a sod like that and don't take shit from anyone, deep down though I know that will only make things worse.
What can we do? I feel awful for her as she's a wonderful person and doesn't deserve this
Wonder if anyone can offer some advise or words of wisdom?
My husband has a cousin who around 10 years ago divorced from his wife, they have a son who is now 13. They live in the same town only ten minutes apart and for the most part seem to be very civil with each other. Cousins ex wife especially was determined to keep things friendly between them mostly for their child but also as she was an established member of the family and didn't want to lose contact. Ex wife has custody of their son with cousin having regular access.
DH and I have become good friends with exCW and have spent many weekends together both at her house and ours, we thought all was well with CIL as they have been on holiday with their son together many times and have a lot of regular contact.
We were surprised this evening to receive a text from exCW that she's now scared of her CIL due to his increasingly threatening behaviour, abusive texts, snide remarks, convinced she is seeing someone else and being upset about it, being rude to his son to the point he swore back at him.....we're devestated for her and advised her to seek therapy and and a family lawyer ASAP
Other than offering emotional support I wonder if there is more we can do? DH has said we should not say anything to the rest of th family and keep out of it, but part of me wants to tell CIL off for being an arse, I'm a sod like that and don't take shit from anyone, deep down though I know that will only make things worse.
What can we do? I feel awful for her as she's a wonderful person and doesn't deserve this