I am so frustrated with this whole situation I am frustrated with my DuH and my sister in law. About two years ago Sil and BIL were about to loose their house and we're declaring bankruptcy (for the second time) at the time DH was working a ton of hours like 90 hours a week and had quite a bit of money saved up. Sil and BIL came to DH begging him for money they were in a tough spot and they're family so DH lent them $7000 dollars and they promised to pay it back as soon as they could.
Well fast forward two years they haven't payed back anything they haven't even made an attempt to. They ended up losing the house they were in two years ago but somehow managed to get a beautiful house worth around $800,000. Two months ago they came to DH again begging him for 15 grand promising if he lent them that they would pay him back that plus what they already owed him. He didn't lend them the money they have made no mention to pay back what they owe him since then.
Now today, which is the part that makes me the most angry, SIL texts DH from vacation in Vegas and asks to borrow $1000. it's so frustrating and makes my blood boil if you can't afford to go on vacation and have debts to pay then don't go on vacation! DH and I have never been on vacation together because we can't afford it! Right now we are struggling to save enough money for me to go back to school in September which ironically costs $7000. Meanwhile they are living in a nicer house then anyone in the family all who have lent her money over the years and never paid them back they spends thousand a dollars to put their kids in hockey and go to tournament every weekend.
How can I get my DuH to get his head out of his ass and stand up to his sister and tell her she needs to start paying us back! I've tried to talk to him about it many times but he always tries to avoid the subject. Or do I just need to let it go and accept we will never get that money back again. Sorry for any typos I'm mobile. I hope this is the right place to post this thread.
Well fast forward two years they haven't payed back anything they haven't even made an attempt to. They ended up losing the house they were in two years ago but somehow managed to get a beautiful house worth around $800,000. Two months ago they came to DH again begging him for 15 grand promising if he lent them that they would pay him back that plus what they already owed him. He didn't lend them the money they have made no mention to pay back what they owe him since then.
Now today, which is the part that makes me the most angry, SIL texts DH from vacation in Vegas and asks to borrow $1000. it's so frustrating and makes my blood boil if you can't afford to go on vacation and have debts to pay then don't go on vacation! DH and I have never been on vacation together because we can't afford it! Right now we are struggling to save enough money for me to go back to school in September which ironically costs $7000. Meanwhile they are living in a nicer house then anyone in the family all who have lent her money over the years and never paid them back they spends thousand a dollars to put their kids in hockey and go to tournament every weekend.
How can I get my DuH to get his head out of his ass and stand up to his sister and tell her she needs to start paying us back! I've tried to talk to him about it many times but he always tries to avoid the subject. Or do I just need to let it go and accept we will never get that money back again. Sorry for any typos I'm mobile. I hope this is the right place to post this thread.