Background: DH and I have been together for 5 years and the entire time of us dating we have been to my families house at Christmas and every family reunion. We have been to one of his family reunions and never been at his families house on Christmas Day. My parents are pretty wealthy and help us out quite a bit with buying thugs for the baby and have us money for the down payment on our house and fly down to see us often. His parents have zero money and the only time his mom has come down was when we paid for her to fly down after we had the baby last Christmas and was the only time meeting her granddaughter. My parents also just left afer being here for a week for thanksgiving.
Situation: we are flying up north for ten days over the Christmas holidays. DH has said that he want to spend Christmas Day at his moms house who lives 4 hours from mine since we never do the holidays with his family. He wants to leave Wednesday night and come back Christmas night to my moms. So out of 10 days, we would spend 1 day with his and 9 with mine. Although I would rather spend Christmas with my family I feel DH is being more than fair. My sister then tells my mom tonight about our plans to go to his moms for 24 hours and Aparently she freaks out and starts saying stuff like how are they going to get there (implying we can't use their car) and then even brings up the $25K she is planning on giving us for is to finally have a real wedding. My sister said she tried to defend me but my mom was just loosing it. I'm going to give her time to cool down before in call her. But I'm wondering am I wrong for going to his parents (leaving 6pm Wednesday and coming back Christmas night at like 9pm)? does she "deserve" the time? What are some things I can say to make her understand? Ugh I'm just so mad at her right now that she would bring up money and the car we were going to take as a form of almost bribery.
Thanks I know his is long
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