Hi all! Long time hugger first time poster. I am hoping that you can help me. My DH and I have been together for 10 years and have three children together. We used to split Christmas into thirds, morning at our place, afternoon at my parents and evening at Pil's. For the last two years Pil have gone away to their holiday home in another country forgoing Christmas. The first year we went to my parents and last year after the birth of our third child we decided that we were starting a new tradition and having dinner at our house. My parents came and it was low stress and we all said that it was the best Christmas in a long time.
Well this year Pil have decided to stay home. Mil wants to host again. Dh says that we will be staying home. So Mil asks Sil if they can go to her house (for the past two years Sil has had Christmas at her house with her new husband alone). Sil says no that they are doing their own thing. Mil emails us about this and asks if her and Fil came come to our house (it was funny because we were so clearly second choice) and we agreed. This all happened in October.
*trigger*. In October I miscarried our fourth at 11 weeks. We were waiting to tell our family until we hit 12 weeks. The baby had been a surprise but was a welcome one. Anyway we ended up telling our family the day of. Prior to finding out about the pregnancy we had thought we were done having children, now we are not 100% sure. *end trigger*
A week ago Sil calls Dh while he is at work and asks if she and Bil can come for Christmas dinner. Dh agreed. He was busy and her question surprised him and to be honest I would have agreed if he had asked me first. The problem is why now? A big part of me believes that they are going to use our Christmas dinner to announce a pregnancy. Should this bother me? A part of me wants to kick her out if she does announce. But honestly what should I do or say? My DH somewhat gets it but in all honesty I'm not sure I understand this emotion myself. Sil is the GC and her and Mil are my bec.
Well this year Pil have decided to stay home. Mil wants to host again. Dh says that we will be staying home. So Mil asks Sil if they can go to her house (for the past two years Sil has had Christmas at her house with her new husband alone). Sil says no that they are doing their own thing. Mil emails us about this and asks if her and Fil came come to our house (it was funny because we were so clearly second choice) and we agreed. This all happened in October.
*trigger*. In October I miscarried our fourth at 11 weeks. We were waiting to tell our family until we hit 12 weeks. The baby had been a surprise but was a welcome one. Anyway we ended up telling our family the day of. Prior to finding out about the pregnancy we had thought we were done having children, now we are not 100% sure. *end trigger*
A week ago Sil calls Dh while he is at work and asks if she and Bil can come for Christmas dinner. Dh agreed. He was busy and her question surprised him and to be honest I would have agreed if he had asked me first. The problem is why now? A big part of me believes that they are going to use our Christmas dinner to announce a pregnancy. Should this bother me? A part of me wants to kick her out if she does announce. But honestly what should I do or say? My DH somewhat gets it but in all honesty I'm not sure I understand this emotion myself. Sil is the GC and her and Mil are my bec.