My kids have birthdays within a week of each other so we are having 1 party for them both. I invited my whole family. Mom, dad, brother. Sis 1, 2 nephews, her boyfriend. Sis 2, nephew, niece, BIL. No one RSVPd. Soooo, I sent a FB message. Nada. Sent one more because I offered housing and wanted to get a count for cake I had to order. Sis 1 replied that her car was broken down. My feeling were not hurt, shit happens. But my mother and sis 2 did not reply.
**I know FB messages are not the way to communicate but my sis 2 doesnt have a phone right now and my mother- I called her 6 times over the course of 3 weeks and no call back so I stopped calling. ** Anyway, that was the issue about RSVPing. It was annoying and inconsiderate but I have better things to worry about.
My feelings are hurt because- this may seem silly to some- but in my family everyone calls the person who has a birthday. If theyre not there, they call. They sing group songs of happy birthday, wish them well, and then let them get on with their day. Silly, but its just a family thing and something to look forward to. No one called my son. He turned 3 today and not a soul called him. Hes too young to realize but I am hurt, it made me feel like shit. I just give up on them now. They have me emotionally exhausted with them.
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