BG: my SIL got pregnant just after I did, and we shared a lot of our pregnancies with each other. We made plans for our babies to spend time together, divvied up hand-me-downs, etc. Then, a few weeks after my DD arrived, their DD was stillborn. It was awful. I've tried really hard to be supportive without encroaching on their grieving, and have let them dictate our relationship for the last 4 months.
Here's my question- they've been given the ok to try getting pregnant again, and told me they'd probably start in a month or two (I work primarily with preggos and postpartum women, so they've felt comfortable sharing, I guess. I don't mind, and I keep what they share to myself). Does anyone have advice on how I can be the best possible SOO/SIL? I don't know a lot about getting pregnant after a loss (aside from what my clinical texts tell me, and the last thing I want to be for them is clinical), so I don't want to inadvertently commit a huge faux pas or be offensive, dismissive or up their butts.
Can anyone help me out with this? I know the basics, but I'm struggling with the nuances and really don't want to be a DuS.
Here's my question- they've been given the ok to try getting pregnant again, and told me they'd probably start in a month or two (I work primarily with preggos and postpartum women, so they've felt comfortable sharing, I guess. I don't mind, and I keep what they share to myself). Does anyone have advice on how I can be the best possible SOO/SIL? I don't know a lot about getting pregnant after a loss (aside from what my clinical texts tell me, and the last thing I want to be for them is clinical), so I don't want to inadvertently commit a huge faux pas or be offensive, dismissive or up their butts.
Can anyone help me out with this? I know the basics, but I'm struggling with the nuances and really don't want to be a DuS.