I know I know, I'm (one of the many) girls that posted about my in laws watching my kid and not doing what I ask.
(One of the many) girls you guys told to immediately get daycare and screw the in laws because you get what you pay for.
None the less, they are still watching my daughter once a week because family is important to me, I don't want to keep my daughter from her nana and papa who do love her. I don't want to divide my husband from his parents and I don't want to deal with massive family drama.
Because I'm not willing to pick a fight with them (or grow a backbone) I don't really deserve any sympathy. Buuuuuut I'm gonna vent about it all right here anyway. The good news is, on the off hand chance you remember my last rant, it was about my FIL but THIS TIME I'm keeping it interesting and making it about MIL! YEY!
My MIL is a boundary pusher. Its driving me eff-ing nuts. She KNOWS the rules and she pushes them JUST far enough that if I complain, I look like the crazy person. When I pick up my daughter, my MIL, SIL, FIL, BIL, and GMIL are there vs just me and no DH. When they tell me which rule they obnoxiously "bent" this week I just don't have the energy after working a 12 hr day to pick a fight with the 5 of them.
This week it was clothes (I always pack her bag with 3 outfits but MIL, every week, goes into her room, goes through her closet and picks out other outfits to take with her) it was books (MIL dug through her closet found the books I have saved for later, brought out 10 of them and nicely left them on my coffee table to remind me I should be reading THESE books) it was bottles (MIL dug through her closet and found a sippy cup for my 6 month old because she thought it would be a fun change) it was food (even though MIL knows we are doing baby led weaning and she knows all the ins and outs of it and the reasons behind it she decided to puree some carrot and spoon feed it to her anyway, leaving plenty on her clothes so she could tell me about it when I picked her up - but hey at least she isn't lying about it or keeping it a secret??) and it was visitors - they know that we don't like them having visitors over to meet the baby but they had two sets of out of town relatives come visit today and decided to tell us about it AFTER I had left for work this morning. Since she is just a boundary PUSHER though she was sure to apologize profusely about the both sets of visitors because it was all "very last minute!" and "she had no control over it!"
Yes she still watches my kid because I dont think any of these things are enourmous deals, they don't put my childs health or safety at risk but it does DRIVE ME UP THE FREEKIN WALL that I'm being so completely and totally ignored!