So I've been married for four years, known my husband for five years and have met my in laws a total of three times. When my first daughter was born (18 months ago) my in laws drove 14 hours to come stay at our home and to meet their granddaughter. They did so without warning. We literally got a "surprise!" welcome on our doorstep the minute I got home from the hospital (literally, they were waiting in the driveway). They stayed a week and could NOT have been more of a burden on me. My husband was thrilled but I sat, trying to breastfeed awkwardly, with swollen feet on my floor because his mother was stretched out on the couch and his father was propped up in our recliner.
I'm now due with our second child on May 17th. I had discussed with my husband my need for a visit free week after the baby's arrival so I can be as stress free as possible. His mother called an hour ago via Face time, ecstatic to announce that she had bought her plane ticket to visit us on May 2nd and was going to stay through the birth and for a week after so that she could meet her new grand baby. May 2nd. I'm not due till May 17th. So according to my pregnancy hormones, that's almost a month. Couple that with the fact that she thinks it'll be a great time to bond with my oldest daughter (whom she's met twice, once when she was born) while my husband and I are in the hospital. I have already made plans for my dd to stay with my parents during this time. She stays with them one weekend a month anyway and they live down the street from us. Am I completely out of line to not only not want my daughter staying with a virtual stranger while I'm in the hospital but to be furious that she's coming to burden me again as a houseguest, while I finish my pregnancy and try to introduce a new child into my home?
I'm now due with our second child on May 17th. I had discussed with my husband my need for a visit free week after the baby's arrival so I can be as stress free as possible. His mother called an hour ago via Face time, ecstatic to announce that she had bought her plane ticket to visit us on May 2nd and was going to stay through the birth and for a week after so that she could meet her new grand baby. May 2nd. I'm not due till May 17th. So according to my pregnancy hormones, that's almost a month. Couple that with the fact that she thinks it'll be a great time to bond with my oldest daughter (whom she's met twice, once when she was born) while my husband and I are in the hospital. I have already made plans for my dd to stay with my parents during this time. She stays with them one weekend a month anyway and they live down the street from us. Am I completely out of line to not only not want my daughter staying with a virtual stranger while I'm in the hospital but to be furious that she's coming to burden me again as a houseguest, while I finish my pregnancy and try to introduce a new child into my home?