Where to start...my sister and I have never been too close, she is a huge narc (ex: when I told her I was pregnant her reaction was, 'wow, great! So anyway, I'm writing a script for a movie about my life which I want to direct and star in!' This actually happened....) As a teenager she was extremely nasty towards everyone in my family and caused so much drama (multiple times police were involved). It's exhausting to be around her but I try to see her from time to time because she's my younger sister (20) and I guess I feel like I have to at least try and be a somewhat supportive older sister.
*TRIGGER* Around a year ago she told my family that my dad had tried to molest her when she was a child. No one knew what to believe, as she is always saying crazy things to get attention from anyone she can. She has claimed to have been abducted by aliens multiple times, and posts things on the debil like how she went in a date with a married man who tried to abduct her and take her to an S&M club. She loves to act like she is a saint and any time she does something nice for someone she has to post about it to tell the whole world how nice she is. This is just the tip of the iceberg. My father denied doing anything, even so I took her side and distanced myself from him. He suddenly passed away about 2 months ago.
When I found out he died in the middle of the night I went to my mother's house to be with her. My sister came over accompanied by her boyfriend, who I had only briefly met once before and had basically never spoken to. He was looking at some of my art my mom had hanging on the wall and shoves some paper in my face, telling me to draw a heart for him to be a logo for the foundation he and my sister are making to stop child abuse. In my head I was like wtf, but I was in shock from my dad passing and I figured I could just scribble something and he'd leave me alone. So I give it to him and he has the nerve to tell me he doesn't like it and to do it over!!! I got pissed and told him beggars can't be choosers, and his response is, 'I'm not begging.' So basically, a half hour after I find out my father died, he's demanding that I help him create stuff for this foundation which is based on the assumption that he was a child molester!! My blood still boils just thinking about this...*end trigger*
Then when I was about to go home, I said goodbye to my mom and he says, in front of her, 'You should text her when you get home, I'm sure she'd appreciate that' WTF? Where does he get off telling me what to do with my mother???
Other things he's done include these klassy gems:
-he tried to pressure my younger brother to smoke a cigarette with him (brother doesn't smoke)
-has tried to pressure my mom into drinking more than she wanted to on several occasions
I told my sister that the way he behaved was rude and the next day I see he posted some odd message on her fb wall like, 'come spend time with us, don't be like your sister, she's rude.' I don't even know what he meant by this but he obviously was saying something nasty about me in a place where I could see it. She later took it down and he said he was 'kidding' wtf?
Anyway, I have refused to go anywhere I knew they would be attending for the last couple of months because this guy just makes me want to vomit. But now, apparently they are engaged even though they are both completely broke and living with his family and he didn't buy her a ring. So my family has been pressuring me to get over it and be the bigger person etc because I won't go out with them or go over if he is there.
I'm writing all this because I will be having my first child in a couple of months and will be getting married in a few months as well, what am I supposed to do if they actually do end up getting married? How am I supposed to invite my sister to meet her nephew/to my wedding etc without him? Or how am I supposed to deal with this whole situation? I'm so frustrated after typing all that out that I don't even know what my exact question is. Advice?
*TRIGGER* Around a year ago she told my family that my dad had tried to molest her when she was a child. No one knew what to believe, as she is always saying crazy things to get attention from anyone she can. She has claimed to have been abducted by aliens multiple times, and posts things on the debil like how she went in a date with a married man who tried to abduct her and take her to an S&M club. She loves to act like she is a saint and any time she does something nice for someone she has to post about it to tell the whole world how nice she is. This is just the tip of the iceberg. My father denied doing anything, even so I took her side and distanced myself from him. He suddenly passed away about 2 months ago.
When I found out he died in the middle of the night I went to my mother's house to be with her. My sister came over accompanied by her boyfriend, who I had only briefly met once before and had basically never spoken to. He was looking at some of my art my mom had hanging on the wall and shoves some paper in my face, telling me to draw a heart for him to be a logo for the foundation he and my sister are making to stop child abuse. In my head I was like wtf, but I was in shock from my dad passing and I figured I could just scribble something and he'd leave me alone. So I give it to him and he has the nerve to tell me he doesn't like it and to do it over!!! I got pissed and told him beggars can't be choosers, and his response is, 'I'm not begging.' So basically, a half hour after I find out my father died, he's demanding that I help him create stuff for this foundation which is based on the assumption that he was a child molester!! My blood still boils just thinking about this...*end trigger*
Then when I was about to go home, I said goodbye to my mom and he says, in front of her, 'You should text her when you get home, I'm sure she'd appreciate that' WTF? Where does he get off telling me what to do with my mother???
Other things he's done include these klassy gems:
-he tried to pressure my younger brother to smoke a cigarette with him (brother doesn't smoke)
-has tried to pressure my mom into drinking more than she wanted to on several occasions
I told my sister that the way he behaved was rude and the next day I see he posted some odd message on her fb wall like, 'come spend time with us, don't be like your sister, she's rude.' I don't even know what he meant by this but he obviously was saying something nasty about me in a place where I could see it. She later took it down and he said he was 'kidding' wtf?
Anyway, I have refused to go anywhere I knew they would be attending for the last couple of months because this guy just makes me want to vomit. But now, apparently they are engaged even though they are both completely broke and living with his family and he didn't buy her a ring. So my family has been pressuring me to get over it and be the bigger person etc because I won't go out with them or go over if he is there.
I'm writing all this because I will be having my first child in a couple of months and will be getting married in a few months as well, what am I supposed to do if they actually do end up getting married? How am I supposed to invite my sister to meet her nephew/to my wedding etc without him? Or how am I supposed to deal with this whole situation? I'm so frustrated after typing all that out that I don't even know what my exact question is. Advice?